Bullies and the Bullied

The Problem: Bulling in school and in the neighborhood.

Focus one: the bully
Focus two: the victims
Focus three: the environs of social laxity.

The Bully.
This person is acting in a manner that is self destructive as well as destructive to those around them. Others that hang with the bully do so because they, too, delight in doing evil and they also engage in the same self destructive behavior. They often form groupings that act in concert to bully others.


These souls are lost, asleep, ignorant, and emotionally damaged. In order to facilitate a change from anti-social behavior, these needy souls require: being found by caring mentors, attaining a spiritual awakening, being educated in the blessings of chivalric behavior, and being lovingly nurtured.

The Victims.
Not all who are bullied are victims. Some are self assured and are not damaged by any bully. Others less strong, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, will suffer damage to themselves in some form. The needs of the victims are: physical healing, mental bolstering, emotional fortification, and spiritual empowerment.

The Environs of Social Laxity.
Our society has become lax in its teaching of civil conduct to the young. Indeed, bullying behavior is encouraged by well publicized backward steps in our educational system such as taking the Ten Commandments out of our schools.
Our Society needs a reversal of these steps. Chivalric Conduct needs to be taught.

The Answer: The Chivalric Code as a mentoring curriculum

In order to implement the curriculum of Chivalric Behavior, Mentors are needed to set the example and to teach.  They need to take on the responsibility of acolytes to mentor in as large a group as is needful for their community and according to their individual capabilities.

The general form of such a grouping of knights and Ladies with acolytes can take on formal organization or remain an informal mentorship. For The Complete Mentorship Program, the teacher and the acolyte ought to meet the following requirements during training: obtain a job to support self and one other person; complete reading of the bible; complete the curriculum of Chivalry-Now; and complete the practicum of 100 good deeds. (Some will object to the requirement of reading the Bible. It is not required that one accept any premise in the Bible. It is required reading so that ignorance may be dispelled, and, perchance, some wisdom might be obtained.)

The Prime candidate for recruitment is the bully. Behavior modification by means of mentoring in the Chivalric Ideals is an excellent way to distract the bully from his or her deviant ways and to foster a reversal of attitude toward the ideal. Not all will respond to such mentoring but no doubt many will, or rather would if the opportunity ever existed for them.

The victim who has been damaged by bullying will find the way to healing emotionally and spiritually through the self disciplines and personal empowerment of the Chivalric Way. Self improvement and empowerment is the need of any who are down trodden in mind and spirit.

By engaging troubled and at-risk youths in such organized Mentoring Programs the community will benefit as well as the youths involved. Those in the program will be focused on doing good deeds, not out committing crimes.

The key to implementing the program is finding, recruiting, and possibly training Knights and Ladies to act as mentors and to organize the program in their own communities.

An Academy of Chivalry can be composed of one or more teachers and one or more students who are focused on the Chivalric Ideals and the Quest. Anyone who is qualified and capable of mentoring may conduct such an academy. (Please note, fellow Companions, aspiring Knights and Knights and Ladies: Formal recognition of such Academies that teach the curriculum of Chivalry-Now would serve to empower the teachers and the students.)

There is a unique aspect of the Chivalry-Now organization that I believe will prove to be its greatest power for good. That aspect is its seriousness and focus. This, in itself, is what makes Chivalry-Now a legitimate and viable tool for the enrichment of our society and our world.

Chivalry-Now, with their particularly well thought out curriculum and their articulately engaged membership, can lend cohesion and guidance to any spontaneously grown academy or groups of academies that are focused on mentorship of young men and women in chivalry. The Brotherhood could (and probably should) require standards of qualifications for individuals to become recognized as mentors. And when an academy happens, as it were, CN will be able to follow its doings by suggesting there be a blog from the member academies to report their progressions through the course of their curriculum.

In conclusion I add this thought: A stone can be a rock or a precious gem.

When God says to stone the sinner to death, people think he means to pick up rocks and kill the sinner. But God is Spirit and must be understood by the spirit. Do not gems of wisdom that correct us have the effect of killing that sinner in us and allows us to move on as a new person who no longer sins that way?

One of the prophets said,
When man wounds he intends to slay.
When God wounds he intends to bind up.
When man kills he intends to destroy utterly.
When God kills he intends to raise up.

Thanks be to God.

LeRoy