Knights March
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Saturday, June 19, 2010
Innocentive Challenge solution
I signed up with Innocentive.com to try to win an award for a solution to a problem. The challenge "Transforming Parental Engagement In The Way Young People Learn."
My simple suggestion is to encourage Men and Women to become modern day Knights and Ladies and then to mentor their sons and daughters in the ways of Chivalry. The website http://www.chivalrynow.net/ is a forum of serious men and women who discuss Chivalry and lend moral support to one another. The following is an excerpt from the website about the book written by D. Joseph Jacques:
Chivalry-Now, The Code of Male Ethics is a book that attempts to recover an important aspect of Western Civilization that has been lost.
Chivalry itself was a code of behavior of the knightly class during the Middle Ages. It was originally based on the warrior ethic of loyalty to one's lord or leader. It gradually developed to include other virtues as well, including honesty, humility, justice, defending the weak, serving women, and courtesy. Although most knights only loosely adhered to these ethics, chivalry remained as an inspirational ideal that contributed to the Western idea of being a gentleman.
The author's premise is that chivalry encapsulated the Western idea of manhood. If it had properly evolved into modern times, many of the social problems we suffer from today would be less significant. There would be fewer men in jail, fewer abused women, less corporate crime, and more politicians we could trust.
Male development needs a cultural guide that describes what it means to be a man. Without such a guide, it is difficult to find purpose and meaning in life. Male energy becomes misdirected, unappreciated and often stagnates into a wasted life.
To remedy this situation, this book takes the original tenets of chivalry and updates them to be applicable to today's world. Included in this work is a viable description of attainable romantic love, and a discussion of the spiritual side of chivalry, questing for the Holy Grail that exists inside us all.
(The following is taken from the Introduction of Chivalry-Now, the Code of Male Ethics):
Introduction
Trapped in No Man's Land
What does it mean to be a man?
This is surely one of the most significant questions we face — and one of the least considered, reflecting a functional void in our mainstream culture.
Coming from a lengthy career in social services, I firmly believe that almost all our social, political and family problems flow directly from our inability to fill that void. Its influence effects us all, shaping how we relate to one another and how we treat the world around us.
This is not just a male issue. Its ramifications affect both genders, because all our lives are interconnected. In the words of Martin Luther King, "I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be."
This relates not only to matters of race but to gender as well. While positive examples of manhood can still be found here and there, they are deterred by a pervasive mindset that neither propagates nor recognizes it.
In America, we shy away from defining manhood as if the very subject were taboo. After a long history of unwarranted violence and discrimination, men are being taught from birth that they automatically carry an inheritance of guilt for past sins. We make sure that no male child slips by without taking his share. Each of us is expected to bear the guilt of our forefathers along with a personal stigma for simply being male. We are told in a thousand different ways, either in silence or in the commercial media, that there is something inherently wrong with being a man.
The intent is clear. We do not want today's men repeating the crimes of the past. The hope seems to be that by tearing us from any sense of cultural identity the world can move toward greater harmony. More guilt and less pride make for a calmer species. Women and minorities will be treated better. The demise of Western male dominance might even bring an end to war.
Such conclusions are dangerously simplistic. We cannot excise the cultural identity of half the population like a cancer and replace it with nothing. Doing so sends our entire cultural evolution into a tailspin, leaving a psychic void that can only lead to disaster.
The results are all around us — a population of boys and men searching for who they are and how they fit in. No road map, no gender specific guidelines, no rite-of-passage — not even an articulated goal. Finding no guidance at all, many turn to whatever distraction is available, be it entertainment, business, sports or narcotics. Or they just give up.
Movie heroes, mostly dysfunctional, yet always scripted to come out on top. Selfish, angry, violent, often brutal, they appeal to those whose real cultural identity is sadly unformed. At the same time, the entertainment industry pushes socially accepted limits with sexual innuendo, foul language, and in-your-face aggression. They often appeal to the angry animus of young men, who do not understand the fundamental source of their anguish.
Business icons rip off millions of people to further engorge their bulging coffers. Despite their inhumanity and complete lack of conscience, they represent what appears to be a successful male paradigm, where immoral and even criminal ends justify the means.
Professional athletes, sometimes referred to as "All-American" - as if they represented the very best that the U.S. has to offer. We hear about them on the nightly news, throwing tantrums, taking illegal body building or performance enhancing drugs, and being charged with rape. Advertisers portray them as ultimate images of manhood, despite their obvious shortcomings. And young people buy into that.
Politicians selling out to big business, contriving slurs and telling outright lies about their opponents, all for the accumulation of power.
Media journalists, once considered heroic bastions of truth, now prostituting their trade, focusing on the lowest common denominator of titillating gossip while foisting their own political bias on a public in desperate need for truth.
The results are apparent. Jails are overflowing. Wealthy businessmen violate the trust of innocent people. Politicians ignore the threat of pollution and global warming, even encouraging the populace to burn as much oil as they possibly can. Pornographers are treated as respectable businesspeople. Even religious leaders are now suspect, with thousands of charges of child molestations made against them and a Church dragging its feet in response.
This is the society that young people grow up in — a society without heroes, without myth, where virtues are so coupled with hypocrisy that they can no longer be held in esteem.
While many factors contribute to this, a central component is the degradation of what it means to be a man in relationship to the world. Men still carry a lot of power — but it is power that often lacks a viable moral compass.
The denial of cultural identity is akin to ripping out a person's conscience, taking away his name, firing him from his job, stealing his language, cutting him off from friends and family. Cultural identities, especially those of gender, need to be recognized for the role they play in people's lives. They need to be honored, but they also need to be honorable, while retaining a strong continuity with the past.
In short, they need to evolve.
Part of the problem stems from the growing rapidity of social change that started with the Industrial Revolution, when men traded their independence for the closed-in, repetitive conditions of the factory. Cut off from a respectful relationship with nature, they no longer performed work that varied with the seasons. They no longer worked side-by-side with their children to mentor them. This resulted in a cultural shock with on-going ramifications.
The development of technology has distracted us from this trauma by "making life easier," glossing over the broken status quo by adding benefits of convenience. Despite the continual advance of scientific and psychological progress (or maybe because of it?), we drift even further from knowing who we are in the depth of our being. We live in a sort of stasis, confused, frustrated, looking for something - without knowing what.
The purpose of this book is to remedy that situation. Our goal is to first recover and then reinstate a viable cultural identity for men.
The core of this Chivalric Program is summed up in the 12 Trusts.
Upon my honor
1) I will develop my life for the greater good.
2) I will place character above riches, and concern for others above personal wealth.
3) I will never boast but cherish humility instead.
4) I will speak the truth at all times, and forever keep my word.
5) I will defend those who cannot defend themselves.
6) I will honor and respect women, and avoid sexism in all its guises.
7) I will uphold justice by being fair to all.
8) I will be faithful in love and loyal in friendship.
9) I will abhor scandals and gossip - neither partake nor delight in them.
10) I will be generous to the poor and those who need help.
11) I will forgive when asked so that my own mistakes will be forgiven.
12) I will live my life with courtesy and honor from this day forward.
Fathers and Sons, Mothers and Daughters, deliberately mentoring in the ways of Chivalry is the best way for Families to find healings.
It should be noted that no particular religion is promoted and even agnostics and atheists will find warm welcome among those who aspire to authentic manhood and authentic womanhood.
Also note that Chivalry Now is not about dress up affairs (though that can be fun.) It is about self-improvement and the doing of deeds that are good and right to do to aid others.
My simple suggestion is to encourage Men and Women to become modern day Knights and Ladies and then to mentor their sons and daughters in the ways of Chivalry. The website http://www.chivalrynow.net/ is a forum of serious men and women who discuss Chivalry and lend moral support to one another. The following is an excerpt from the website about the book written by D. Joseph Jacques:
Chivalry-Now, The Code of Male Ethics is a book that attempts to recover an important aspect of Western Civilization that has been lost.
Chivalry itself was a code of behavior of the knightly class during the Middle Ages. It was originally based on the warrior ethic of loyalty to one's lord or leader. It gradually developed to include other virtues as well, including honesty, humility, justice, defending the weak, serving women, and courtesy. Although most knights only loosely adhered to these ethics, chivalry remained as an inspirational ideal that contributed to the Western idea of being a gentleman.
The author's premise is that chivalry encapsulated the Western idea of manhood. If it had properly evolved into modern times, many of the social problems we suffer from today would be less significant. There would be fewer men in jail, fewer abused women, less corporate crime, and more politicians we could trust.
Male development needs a cultural guide that describes what it means to be a man. Without such a guide, it is difficult to find purpose and meaning in life. Male energy becomes misdirected, unappreciated and often stagnates into a wasted life.
To remedy this situation, this book takes the original tenets of chivalry and updates them to be applicable to today's world. Included in this work is a viable description of attainable romantic love, and a discussion of the spiritual side of chivalry, questing for the Holy Grail that exists inside us all.
(The following is taken from the Introduction of Chivalry-Now, the Code of Male Ethics):
Introduction
Trapped in No Man's Land
What does it mean to be a man?
This is surely one of the most significant questions we face — and one of the least considered, reflecting a functional void in our mainstream culture.
Coming from a lengthy career in social services, I firmly believe that almost all our social, political and family problems flow directly from our inability to fill that void. Its influence effects us all, shaping how we relate to one another and how we treat the world around us.
This is not just a male issue. Its ramifications affect both genders, because all our lives are interconnected. In the words of Martin Luther King, "I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be."
This relates not only to matters of race but to gender as well. While positive examples of manhood can still be found here and there, they are deterred by a pervasive mindset that neither propagates nor recognizes it.
In America, we shy away from defining manhood as if the very subject were taboo. After a long history of unwarranted violence and discrimination, men are being taught from birth that they automatically carry an inheritance of guilt for past sins. We make sure that no male child slips by without taking his share. Each of us is expected to bear the guilt of our forefathers along with a personal stigma for simply being male. We are told in a thousand different ways, either in silence or in the commercial media, that there is something inherently wrong with being a man.
The intent is clear. We do not want today's men repeating the crimes of the past. The hope seems to be that by tearing us from any sense of cultural identity the world can move toward greater harmony. More guilt and less pride make for a calmer species. Women and minorities will be treated better. The demise of Western male dominance might even bring an end to war.
Such conclusions are dangerously simplistic. We cannot excise the cultural identity of half the population like a cancer and replace it with nothing. Doing so sends our entire cultural evolution into a tailspin, leaving a psychic void that can only lead to disaster.
The results are all around us — a population of boys and men searching for who they are and how they fit in. No road map, no gender specific guidelines, no rite-of-passage — not even an articulated goal. Finding no guidance at all, many turn to whatever distraction is available, be it entertainment, business, sports or narcotics. Or they just give up.
Movie heroes, mostly dysfunctional, yet always scripted to come out on top. Selfish, angry, violent, often brutal, they appeal to those whose real cultural identity is sadly unformed. At the same time, the entertainment industry pushes socially accepted limits with sexual innuendo, foul language, and in-your-face aggression. They often appeal to the angry animus of young men, who do not understand the fundamental source of their anguish.
Business icons rip off millions of people to further engorge their bulging coffers. Despite their inhumanity and complete lack of conscience, they represent what appears to be a successful male paradigm, where immoral and even criminal ends justify the means.
Professional athletes, sometimes referred to as "All-American" - as if they represented the very best that the U.S. has to offer. We hear about them on the nightly news, throwing tantrums, taking illegal body building or performance enhancing drugs, and being charged with rape. Advertisers portray them as ultimate images of manhood, despite their obvious shortcomings. And young people buy into that.
Politicians selling out to big business, contriving slurs and telling outright lies about their opponents, all for the accumulation of power.
Media journalists, once considered heroic bastions of truth, now prostituting their trade, focusing on the lowest common denominator of titillating gossip while foisting their own political bias on a public in desperate need for truth.
The results are apparent. Jails are overflowing. Wealthy businessmen violate the trust of innocent people. Politicians ignore the threat of pollution and global warming, even encouraging the populace to burn as much oil as they possibly can. Pornographers are treated as respectable businesspeople. Even religious leaders are now suspect, with thousands of charges of child molestations made against them and a Church dragging its feet in response.
This is the society that young people grow up in — a society without heroes, without myth, where virtues are so coupled with hypocrisy that they can no longer be held in esteem.
While many factors contribute to this, a central component is the degradation of what it means to be a man in relationship to the world. Men still carry a lot of power — but it is power that often lacks a viable moral compass.
The denial of cultural identity is akin to ripping out a person's conscience, taking away his name, firing him from his job, stealing his language, cutting him off from friends and family. Cultural identities, especially those of gender, need to be recognized for the role they play in people's lives. They need to be honored, but they also need to be honorable, while retaining a strong continuity with the past.
In short, they need to evolve.
Part of the problem stems from the growing rapidity of social change that started with the Industrial Revolution, when men traded their independence for the closed-in, repetitive conditions of the factory. Cut off from a respectful relationship with nature, they no longer performed work that varied with the seasons. They no longer worked side-by-side with their children to mentor them. This resulted in a cultural shock with on-going ramifications.
The development of technology has distracted us from this trauma by "making life easier," glossing over the broken status quo by adding benefits of convenience. Despite the continual advance of scientific and psychological progress (or maybe because of it?), we drift even further from knowing who we are in the depth of our being. We live in a sort of stasis, confused, frustrated, looking for something - without knowing what.
The purpose of this book is to remedy that situation. Our goal is to first recover and then reinstate a viable cultural identity for men.
The core of this Chivalric Program is summed up in the 12 Trusts.
Upon my honor
1) I will develop my life for the greater good.
2) I will place character above riches, and concern for others above personal wealth.
3) I will never boast but cherish humility instead.
4) I will speak the truth at all times, and forever keep my word.
5) I will defend those who cannot defend themselves.
6) I will honor and respect women, and avoid sexism in all its guises.
7) I will uphold justice by being fair to all.
8) I will be faithful in love and loyal in friendship.
9) I will abhor scandals and gossip - neither partake nor delight in them.
10) I will be generous to the poor and those who need help.
11) I will forgive when asked so that my own mistakes will be forgiven.
12) I will live my life with courtesy and honor from this day forward.
Fathers and Sons, Mothers and Daughters, deliberately mentoring in the ways of Chivalry is the best way for Families to find healings.
It should be noted that no particular religion is promoted and even agnostics and atheists will find warm welcome among those who aspire to authentic manhood and authentic womanhood.
Also note that Chivalry Now is not about dress up affairs (though that can be fun.) It is about self-improvement and the doing of deeds that are good and right to do to aid others.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Knucklehead
Heard some one say:
"If you're focused on doing things for others and making this world a better place in which to live, then you are doing great and living up to your potential.... otherwise you're just a knucklehead."
"If you're focused on doing things for others and making this world a better place in which to live, then you are doing great and living up to your potential.... otherwise you're just a knucklehead."
Father and Son, Dynamic Duo
Here's another clip from YouTube that was noted on the Chivalry-Now Forum:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDnrLv6z-mM&feature=channel
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDnrLv6z-mM&feature=channel
Monday, June 14, 2010
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